This morning I was reading a story about Jon Gosselin where he talks about being ashamed of his actions and wants to apologize to the women that he has hurt. In this case those women would include his wife and a mistress…and God only knows who else. There will many in the world that will see his gesture as noble…as a step in the right direction…as an example to follow. As for me…I will probably always see Jon as a loser…a rogue male.
The term rogue male is something I learned from a previous senior pastor that I worked with. In Scripture men are called to be the spiritual head of the household…setting the example, leading the family, maintaining good self control and pastoring the spiritual needs of his wife and kids. A rogue male doesn’t do any of that…instead choosing to live like a little boy wanting what he wants…doing what he wants…ignoring his God-given responsibilities. Jon…and millions of men in America meet the criteria to be called “rogue males”.
I have heard it argued that Jon wouldn’t have looked to other women if Kate hadn’t have treated him so bad. What a load of crap!!! Jon created that behavior in his wife by being the quiet wall-flower and letting Kate to take the alpha-male role so he could live like a little boy. I see men come through Compass Point all the time that do the same thing. The wife has to take the lead role in the home because the husband still wants to be an adolescent. He doesn’t want to discipline the kids because he wants to be popular. He doesn’t want to pray or share Scripture because he still wants to cuss like a sailor and have a beer with the boys. He doesn’t want to stay home to lead because he wants to go out bungy jumping, skydiving and any other “thrill-junkie-relive-your-teen-years” kind of activity. In essence these men have passed on what God has called them to do…have turn the leadership reigns over to their wives…and have publicly declared “I don’t want to grow I’m a Toys-R-Us kid”. Rogue males…and rogue males equals wussy.
Tomorrow we’ll discuss how sorry doesn’t cut it.