My Notes From The Relate Conference

Last week I had the honor of attending  the Relate One-Day Conference in Wilmington, NC.  Let me begin by saying how amazing the hospitality was at Lifepoint Church for the conference.  Jeff Kapusta and his team pulled out all of the stops to make us feel welcomed and served.

This morning I had a chance to go back over the notes I took during the main sessions and breakouts.  I thought I would share a few of the highlights with my blog readers.

RANDY BEZET – Bayside Community Church

  • When things all go wrong, you can either get bitter or get better.
  • Great leaders know how to encourage themselves AND feed (spiritually) themselves.
  • You CAN keep up and communicate with people online, but you CAN’T build a meaningful relationship with them online.
  • It’s not the crown that makes a king, it’s the annointing.
  • When it comes to leadership development and vision casting, there is a cumulative value in investing small amounts of time in certain activites over a long period of time.
  • Rarely is there immediate consequences for neglecting important areas of your life.
  • In the critical areas of your life, you cannot make up for lost time.

TROY MAXWELL – Freedom House Church

  • Pastors, sometimes we debilitate ourselves by trying to copy other pastor’s success.
  • Rest is a weapon against Satan.
  • Sometimes we don’t rest because we don’t like what we discover about ourselves when we get quiet.
  • We do not need to be part-time Christians and full-time pastors.
  • If we don’t CHOOSE to rest then we will be FORCED to rest (when our body shuts down).
  • Every 7 days take a day off. Every 7 weeks take a a few days off. Every 7 months take a vacation.

CRAIG ALTMAN – Grace Family Church

  • Two things that kill vision; lack of leadership and lack of finances.
  • I tell my church, “I have good news and bad news.  The good news is that we have all of the money we need at this church.  The bad news is that it’s still in your pockets.”
  • If you manipulate people to financial give to the church out of regret or guilt, then you have a BIG problem.
  • One of the goals of discipleship is to move people from consumer to contributor.
  • Don’t despise small beginnings. They are opportunities that God has given you to be faithful.

JEFF KAPUSTA – Lifepoint Church

  • You have to learn to say, “The vision is not for sale.”
  • The longer that people have been in church the harder it is for them to imagine a world outside of the church.
  • When it comes to signage think clear not cute. Keep it simple. Let people know where they go (auditorium).  Let them know where their kids go (children’s ministry). Let them know where to go when they have to go (bathroom).


  • You don’t need the MOST people in your church; you need the RIGHT people in your church.
  • Create a congregation, not a crowd.
  • It’s a miracle and blessing of God when guests walk into a church service.  We only need 1 new guest to have a successful Sunday.
  • Our only goals as a church are to: a) Create an atmosphere where God can bring growth. b) Be good stewards with people when He does.
  • Pastors, we CANNOT empower people to lead that do not have our level of faith in God.

ALEX ANDERSON – Bayside Community Church

  • We should have a church OF small groups, not a church WITH small groups.
  • The goal of small groups is that they should mature into pastoral care for the church.
  • Those leading small groups should not see themselves as leaders, facilitators or teachers.  They should see themselves as shepherds.
  • Church leaders, your job is to give your job away.  You should not be doing everything next year that you are doing this year.
My Notes From The Relate Conference

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